Am I really the wrong one here?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i ahve been with my fiance for over three years now. we have two small children, 2 years and 2 months. we've had a runof bad luck and havn't been able to live with eachother on and off throughout or relationship. we are currently not living together at this time. i am staying with my parents and he's staying with friends. two years ago this may he had another son orn with his ex-girlfriend. it took him a year and a half to come clean about ever sleeping with her but still insists that it only happened the one time. the problem with that is she calls him at least 20 times a day and every time she hangs up she tells him that sheoves him. of course when he's around me he doesn't say it back.but he has openly admitted that she does this. here recently my fiance was staying with a friend of his that i know. he was appearently moving to a new place (his friend) but he was going to be staying with hi, anyway. where my suspicions come in is that the ex was calling him and asking him about apartments, then she had made a coment during a fight they were having that she would move into thier apartment alone. he told me that she was just running her mouth and didn't know what she was talking about. well,a couple days ago he said that he was going to help his friend move. he has been staying at "his friends" apartment but his friend hasn't moved his stuff in yet. he has our bed set up in the one bedroom and he stays there. appearently he and his friend co-lease the apartment and the electricity will be going into his name. so today i took him to the grocery store and then he wanted me to take some of them home with me so it wouldn't go bad (no electricity) i went inside and he has at least 10 pictures of his other son all over theplace, No pictures of our children, and pictures of him and his ex all over the apartment to. i confronted him about it and he told me that he's always had those pictures and that i had to be stupid not to notice, and that he didn't know how they got there. he said that it was probably his friend playing a joke on him. Not funny. needless to say i threw every picture across the room and broke the glass everywhere andhe told me that all my accusations are just crazy and so am i. he told me to leave so i did. Am i stupid to think that he is actually living with his ex or am i falling for all his stupids lies? what should i do? he's not one for talking. he usually walks away becasue everything is a fight to him. Am i really the wrong one here?
You've got some evidence that he is cheating.
When the electricity goes on, stop by his place from time to time and if you don't find his ex there then he is probably telling the truth. But, my feelings is the same as yours... that he is lying.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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