confused by a co-worker
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Over the last couple of months, I've definately realized that I like one of my co-workers a lot. He is a keyholder at the popular retail store that we both work at, technically making him one of my "managers". We do hang out outside of work, but always with other people that we're friends with from work, and it usually involves alcohol. At work, we flirt, joke around, he pretty much lets me do whatever I want, and when he's having a rough day, I try and tell him that he's doing a great job, because he does work hard. Another manager at the store knows that I like him (he guessed it one night while we were all out together). However, there is another co-worker that I think likes him as well. They have also hung out outside of work, but I don't think to the extent that he and I have. He and I have spent the night together (just sleeping in the same bed, nothing more), and he does bring it up on occasion, saying that he had so much fun that night (we are both 23 years old, definately of age...nothing illegal is going on!). Some days he and I are very close, and other days, he seems to prefer talking to the other co-worker over me. It's quite confusing, and I just need some advice from an outside party. Do you think that he could like us both and just doesn't know what to do about this? If so, what advice do you have for me so I can edge her out? I'm kind of friends with her (which makes this really hard), but sometimes she seems to snub me off, especially what he and I are close like we have been all this week. Thank you so much!
The first thing that comes to mind is your working status.
Do you think there would be a problem if people found out you were dating for real? It appears that is what you want. Would it jeopardize either of your jobs?
My advice to getting the edge over the other girl is to spend the night with him again but this time engage is something that is not illegal. He keeps bringing it up so he must be interested.
Don't worry about your friend. All is fair in love and war.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com