how can i get her to trust me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
my friend, who i'm head over heels for, just broke up with her BF. this would seem like a good thing, but she's been bent out of shape about it ever since. i want to get closer to her, not because i think it'll make her like me. i just want to help her because i think she's too good to be so miserable but she just won't trust me. i figured that i can't ecxpect her to trust me if i'm not being honest about my feelings. i mean, she knows i care, but i don't think she completely understands how deeply i do. at this point, i don't care she marries another guy, just as long as it makes her happy. i would gladly put my own feelings aside for her, but she just won't give me the chance to show her how much i care. how can i get close enough to help her and express my true feelings, without seeming overbearing?
You are trying to become a close friend with her and that is good.
The way to build a relationship and trust is to communicate with her (share information), share feelings with her (your's too), and be affectionate (saying hi, smiling, hugs, compliments). It takes some time for trust to build, but once it takes hold it should grow quickly.
Keep at it and hopefully things will work out for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com