I want to know have i done correct?Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I was in relationship with one guy since 1 year.Before that i never ever fall in love.This guy was a good friend of mine but he always use to flirt with me and with other girls also.I was never serious for him and always consider him as friend.But dnt know how this happened and we started having feelings for each other.But at the same time he had feeling for other girl also who never responded to his feelings.So he proposed me when he felt the feelings he had for me and i accepted it inspite of that my freinds warned me that this guy is not serious about me and he is just flirting.But i committed myself and thought that may be he and his thought would have changed.But after some day he tell me that he love me as a freind and he is confused about our relationship.He broke with me and gave me execuses that he was concerned about my future.He dont want to spoil my future because he is always confused and he gets attracted to other gals very easily.I said ok so we became freinds again inspite of that this whole thing hurted me a lot because i was deeply in love with him.Again after 2-3 months he propsed me telling that he wanted to be and he loves me a lot.I fool again trusted him and commited myself to him.But the main reason was i loved him and deep in my heart i wanted him back in life.After few months agin his behaviour started changing.He and his freinds went for a goa trip in which that girl also came .Although nothing happened between them as the girl had and will never accept his proposal but he again started having feelings for her.When he came back i askd about his changed behaviour although i knew the reason.He honestly told me that he cant get that girl out of his head wchich made me very angry.He said me that he thinks that he is not made for serious relationships and want me to go ahead in my life leaving him back.He said that he dont deserve me as i m very good girl.I broke evrything with him even my friendship with him.Now we have not talked to each other since last 1 week.I hate him for watever he has done to me but still i love him and want him to say sorry and want him to be back in my life but not at the cost of my ego.What should i do i m ver depressed by thes breakup?We have common freinds who dont know anything about this and they still think we are together.Worst thing what affects me is when all my freinds ask about him like what is he doing?what are your plans?how r u two going?i am just dumb.Tell me what should i do?Should i go back to him or should wait for him to come back to me?How i should deal with whole situation.I still love him and i am waiting for the day when he should come back like he did earlier and aplozise me
You should break up with him.
He has hurt you very deeply and seems not to care how you feel.
Tell your friends that things didn't work out with him and you are in the market for a new boyfriend.
You will find somebody bettter. And, who knows, when you let him go he may become attracted to you again.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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