I Like my Vet
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I really like the vet where I take my pet, but I am not sure how he feels about me. He is incredibly shy, 40, and still single. (I am five years older). I think he suffers from a social anxiety. He definitely doesn't have a girlfriend, I'm told - much too shy.
We have another mutual interest and I found his email address and emailed him about it. He sent me some info and then I wrote back. I asked some more personal things (general in nature) but he did not respond to those parts of the message.
He has not responded at all to my last message.
I tend to think he is not interested but people tell me you can't tell with shy men.
It definitely sounds like he's shy, and your email idea was a good one to lure him out a bit. Maybe he's nervous even about emailing you, about risking his client relationship with you. Maybe you can volunteer at the vet's office helping to feed the animals there or something? Face to face is always better than remote conversations, and that could help move things along. You can also try finding a local event related to your other interest and see if he'll go with you as a friend. Being out and away from your normal vet-interaction might help him be more talkative.
It's also possible that he simply doesn't like women in that way, and doesn't want you to become too attached to him for that reason. He doesn't want to lead you on. That could explain, too, why he doens't have a girlfriend.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com