How do I convince her to try us again and work things out? I want her back (need more of an answer please)
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I do appreciate that advice and sorry that there were gaps in the previous story...I will continue to try and befriend her still, but I would like some more advice at what I should do at the moment... I left out that I also messaged my ex's friend on that popular site and apologized to her as well for putting her in such an ackward position and stated that my ex and I wont be talking anymore anyways so I dont think it would be a good idea if I continued to contact her...that its sad that we had to end on bad terms but this was inevitable. That girl is my ex's close friend so I am sure she has read that or heard that through her.
My question is if I should just wait it out to see if my ex will call me...OR to wait this week and if she hasnt contacted me yet, to call her. Also I am not too sure if its good that I continue being a "friend" or if I should be more of a close acquaintance to her...
For now I will follow your advice and continue to try and be her friend, to me it seems that she is trying to have her cake and eat it too so I am not sure if I should give her that peace of mind. She still is friends with her last boyfriend and so that is why I have my reservations...That and because of me hearing that she likes some new guy.
Anyways, thank you for your advice. I know that you do this for free and I truely appreciate it.
Due to a glitch in our system (which is fixed now) I am having trouble telling what you have said before and what I have replied. So I will try to take this from scratch.
First thing that took me aback was your statement that she wanted her cake and eat it too and that you were not sure if you should giver her that peace of mind. My reaction is that if you love her, you should want her to be happy no matter how she expresses it. She will pick upon this attitude and you want it to be a good one. Same thing about being a friend or an acquaintance... you will appear better in her eyes if you try to be a friend.
Show her that you are thinking about her well being and she will have good feelings towards you. Take the initiative on contacting her but make it twice a week or so. Just check in to see how she is doing.
All of this is not easy to do, but it will make her feel better, and you too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com