Cheated, confessed and still cheat??!!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have read alot but still haven't found anything like my situation. To make a long story short i cheated on my husband. We have been together for about 6-7 years and have been married for a little over 2 yrs. Because of our jobs we are currently a few hours away from each other and can not live together. I cheated on my husband, told him about it, and then told him that i think we got married way to young and that we should get more experience. (we have never been in a serious relationship with anyone else besides each other) We are both 20 yrs old. As we talked about it and both cried i felt like crap and hated myself so we decided to work things out. I told the "other guy" that we couldnt see each other anymore and he said that he understood and that he would give me my space. The problem, is that i am lying to my husband while i am still seeing the other guy (i went back). I havent had sex again with this other guy BUT we talk about our strong feelings for each other and still hang out and talk. I keep going back and forth between the both..i feel stuck because i want them both and i cant have them both. I keep dragging them both along with my confusion and my bad decisions. I dont know what to do and no matter what i am hurting someone and myself at the same time. I dont know what to do to choose...i feel stuck and confused....and hate myself at the same time. What should i do?
Bite the bullet and quit your job (or get your husband to quit his).
Then move back together again.
The long-distance marriage just isn't going to hack it.
It's either that or divorce court.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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