what to do really confused!!Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hi and thanks for helping me,
well here's the deal: abt 1 month ago i had sex with my ex even though she has a bf, well it turns out that she's pregnant and i dont know if the kid's mine, at first she was saying it was her bf's kid but after we talked and gone over all the probabilities, there's a high chance it might be mine (considering that she had sex with her bf 5 days before me). well i told her i was up to the challenge if it was mine and would respond for the kid (but i DONT want to go back with her) she then told me that since it was mine she was going to abort it!! i refused but hey its her decision. well tonight i talked to her mom and she told me they both got in an argument (mom and my ex) cuz she told her dad that her mom told her (they're divorced) to abort it when in reality it was her bf's mom who told her that, of course that the dad got really mad and told her not to go to the clinic tomorrow cuz she was supposed to abort it tomorrow morning (march 23). now her mom also told me that my ex wanted to go live with her dad in texas along with her bf (the dad actually wants her mom to get them married but stay in CA). Now i kinda understand that she said all that cuz she was mad, but now my problem is this: I told my ex that i wanted to have the kid cuz i'm able to pay for my mistakes, and it turns out that she now wants to go live with her bf, but what if the baby is mine?? i just dont want her to be asking me for child support or something like that when the baby is born and finds out that is mine!! that would be a nasty move from her, and if it aint mine then i would be relieved, i also told her that if she wanted to work things out with me abt the baby only to do it now before the abortion, cuz i dont want her to be calling me later on....i know its kinda long but it'd be of great help if you give me an advice on my situation....thaks again.
The facts as they seem to stand:
you don't know who the child's father is;
she wants to live with her bf and have the child;
you don't want her to come after you for child support after the child is born.
Problem is that although it will make you mad, you have no choice but to pay child support if the child is proven to be yours.
Just step up to the plate if that happens. You seem to be an honorable guy.
Good luck! George
p.s. you might want to discuss this with a lawyer.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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