My Boyfriend and his Family are Liars
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend has lied to me before. He has lied to me about a party he went to and one of his ex-girlfriends told me the next day that he was there. He also lied to me about haveing one of his ex-girlfriends in the car with him and my brother just riding around one night. His parents dont seem to like me that well. He has a cell phone and when his parents got his cell phone bill he had a bunch of calls to both of his ex-girl friends. When I first asked him he told me that they were all incomming calls and then later on he told me that they would call him and leave him voice messages and he would call them back. But the phone bill said they talked on there for like 15-20 mins some times and he said that it wasnt him it was one of his guy friends when they went fishing.
Then his parents told me that he picked one of his ex-girl frieds up one night at 1:00 and just went driving around until 4:00 because his parents and brother and sister wasnt home they were staying at there camper so he had the house to his self. His parents said that his ex-girl friends little sister told his little brother about him picking her up, and they over heard him talking to her so later on they cornerd him and made him tell them.
My boyfriend asked his brother and he said that he didnt know what he was talking about. Then later on his parents called one of his ex-girlfriends and told her to come over to take him to the fair but he wouldnt go with her. He said that he never went and picked her up that his parents were just making it up.
What do you think? I told him that I belived him but if he called another girl one more time then I would break up with him. But do you think that he really picked her up or his parents were just making it up to break us up? Also what do you think I should do? Please write me back ASAP!
Wow, what a family!!! That is just amazing. Lying is REALLY really bad, and it's pretty scary that not only your boyfriend is lying, but his family actively encourages this too!! What kind of a message is that to give to a person in your household, "lying is OK"? Lying is never, never OK. Relationships are all about trust. Life is all about doing things that you can stand behind. If you can't admit to something, why in the world would you want to do it? At the end of the day, you're the one who has to look yourself in the mirror. And if all you see is a liar, cheater and betrayer, you're going to feel pretty shoddy.
In any case, I don't know that I'd even give him one more chance. Because his history shows that he eagerly lies to cover his own tracks, does whatever he wants, can't be trusted. If he TELLS you he won't call another girl, will you actually believe him? And if he DID call another girl, do you think he'd tell you? Now you're down to watching him to "catch him" when he does cheat on you again. And that's no way to live. I would really find a guy that you deserve, that is honest and trustworthy and that will love you the way you love him. This lying guy you have now has a lot to learn before he'll be a good boyfriend.
-- from Jenn
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Too much trust?
User Submitted Response from a 13-15 year old Female