I'm over HIM, but not over IT

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I broke up 4 1/2 months ago. This was our third try at a relationship and this time he broke up with me saying that he just couldn't be in a relationship right then because of other stuff going on in his life. He was a really terrible boyfriend through most of the relationship. He rarely called me and when I called him, he always started the conversation with "I can't really talk now". Any way, I have realized that we are totally wrong for each other and that I deserve a lot better than that. I have been dating another guy for over 3 months (started going out about 1 month after my ex and I broke up and I knew him before we broke up). My current boyfriend is everything that my ex wasn't - thoughtful, attentive, caring. I think that I am falling in love with him. My problem, though, is that I can't seem to get over the pain that my ex caused me. I know that I am over him and never want to be with him again, but when I see him at school, I still feel the pain that he caused me. We don't speak - he just talks badly about me to other people. How do I let go of the pain? It's like I'm over him, but not over the relationship. I love the relationship that I'm in now and I hope that it will only grow but I need to let the other relationship go completely.

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Time is the cure for pain.

Give this more time and you will eventually get over the relationship.

Whenever you get that pain, say to yourself "Now that was a stupid relationship wasn't it?" This will help chase the pain away. Also, when you get the pain, immediately start thinking about your current BF.

Good luck! George

-- from George
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