I'm over HIM, but not over IT
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I broke up 4 1/2 months ago. This was our third try at a relationship and this time he broke up with me saying that he just couldn't be in a relationship right then because of other stuff going on in his life. He was a really terrible boyfriend through most of the relationship. He rarely called me and when I called him, he always started the conversation with "I can't really talk now". Any way, I have realized that we are totally wrong for each other and that I deserve a lot better than that. I have been dating another guy for over 3 months (started going out about 1 month after my ex and I broke up and I knew him before we broke up). My current boyfriend is everything that my ex wasn't - thoughtful, attentive, caring. I think that I am falling in love with him. My problem, though, is that I can't seem to get over the pain that my ex caused me. I know that I am over him and never want to be with him again, but when I see him at school, I still feel the pain that he caused me. We don't speak - he just talks badly about me to other people. How do I let go of the pain? It's like I'm over him, but not over the relationship. I love the relationship that I'm in now and I hope that it will only grow but I need to let the other relationship go completely.
Time is the cure for pain.
Give this more time and you will eventually get over the relationship.
Whenever you get that pain, say to yourself "Now that was a stupid relationship wasn't it?" This will help chase the pain away. Also, when you get the pain, immediately start thinking about your current BF.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com