Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I met a girl at work last year and we became good friends, and ended up moving in together (with another friend) after she broke up with her b/f. We started sleeping together after a drunken night for a couple of months but she said it was too soon for her to start going out with someone else. Then her ex would often come round the house and they would be flirting/affectionate and he would stay over etc and it made me jealous to the point where I couldnt stand to be in the room with them. Now our friendship has got worse and she is cold with me which just makes me more jealous especially as she is now meeting lots of new guys at work, and we no longer talk like we used to. I've talked to her about it and she said she feels like im controlling her and she doesnt want to invite her ex round any more cos I will get upset. I just want us to be friends like we used to be, but also I cant stand the thought of her going out with someone else, what should I do?
Your jealousy is preventing you from getting closer to her.
In fact, it is driving you apart. The thing you should do is to get some professional counseling. Breaking jealousy is not something that a person can do themselves usually. You need someone to guide you through these terrible feelings so that you can find your way to peacefulness.
Don't wait, jealousy only gets worse as life goes on and your habits start to solidify.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com