what does he mean?Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My Bf and I were totally in love, we used to spend the days together having fun laughing and all..and nights on thw phone or chatting.. we were gr8 together, we used to work everything out..but then I guess the biggest problem was me exaggerate things.. he used to give me a lot of chances over and over and I kept saying I'd stop exaggerate things bt I didnt so although we were going to get engaged and our relation was really serious ( he is 22, i am 19) he had to break up with me, he was so sad when he did he even cried..then he was changing his mind from 1 time to another, sometimes he asks me to stay friends then he asks me to never talk to him again then he'd be like maybe we'd get back together just leave it for tme.. its been about 2 months since he dumped me and i dunno but since the valentine's day we had a lot of fun that day we talked about us and he said he gave me a lot of chances to stop exaggerate things but i messed them all up so he had enough and that he cant see me the way he used to ( he said, i used to have this great image of u in my mind but now u ruined it) but then as soon as i gave him the gift he hugged me and hld my hands, h kept starin at me the whole time n before he left he came up to me huuged me and wishpered thank you then he left. i met him 2 days later at college and he just said hi, he looked tired and all but he sat with a friend, that friend told me as soon as my ex left that my ex was looking at me while I was laughing with my friends and his best friend so he said look how beautiful she is when she laughs) i am confused.. does he still love me, i mean I was his 1st loveand he never went out with any gurl since we broke up. he also still wearing the necklace igave him on his b.day which has a key pending in it he always thought that key was they key to my heart. on valentine I asked him if he still wears it so he said I always do dont worry then I smiled and said why? so he looked at me and said ummm, then looked away and said i got used to wearing it daily then he laughed I knew he was lieing but believe me I love him with my all, now I have became better i stopped exaggerate things I practised that with friends and family but how can I make him trust me this time? I called him yesterday to check on him coz we havent talked for almost 6 days so his mum picked up she invited me over she has always loved me but am afraid if i would go he would think i wnted to talk to his mum about us to get him back coz he always hated the fact that his family gets involved in our relationship..
now plz tell me what to do with him? about his mum? is there a chance to get him back or not? and does he still love me or not..although he said he doesnt feel he luvz me anymore..
I read this looking for exaggerations and only found one small one.
So you are doing great on breaking that habit. Keep working on it as it seems to be the only problem between you two. Avoid using words like "always" and "never" which are exaggerating words.
The way he acts with you certainly indicates that he still feels strongly about you. Take advantage of that and strengthen your relationship through communications, sharing feelings, and affection (compliments, hugs, etc.)
Good luck! George
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