lost passion? plz help ASAP!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Well, am actually 19 years old and my ex is 22..he was the kind of guys who date gurls for fun..but he fell for me from the 1st time he saw me..we started going out and w fell for each other deeply..all the ppl around felt it.. then i told him i had to leave the country so he said he needed to talk to my parents before i leave so he can propose( thats how we get engaged in our traditions) but then meanwhile i was acting childishly, i always make a big deal out of nothing.. i make the little issues look way much bigger and he hated this..i promised him a thousand times i'd change but i kept messing up.. now he broke up with me..he 1st asked me to never talk to him coz after he broke up with me he said we'd be friends but i was still getting him angry and all..its been about 1 month and 2 weeks since he broke up with me ad we talked yesterday on V.day..I gave him a gift coz I knew he never spent a Valentine's day with any of his Xs and he was so excited to spen it with me so i had to give him sumthn coz it was all my fault..still i wanted him to be happy..
I dunno what to do to get him back he was so happy yesterdy he hugged me and held my hands he seemed so happy when i gave him the gift he didnt expect it at all..
and i told him that i have a serious disease that i kept from him for 4 months..so i dunno is he smiling back at me and hugging me now just coz he feels sorry for me or he still has feelings? he told me yesterda that i have ruined the picture that he has on his mind of me..he said he feels as if the fire(flame) thats inside him is all gone away..
i love him so much and i feel lost without him..i want him back so bad! plz help!
First you need to accept that you might never get him back.
It is important for you to realize that so you can be prepared for that possibility.
To get him back, you should try to become his best friend and not pressure him for a relationship. Ask him if you can call him once a week just to say hello and chat for 15 mins. Maybe after a while of doing that, you could hang out. Perhaps you have already got this close to him.
Take advantage of the closeness to show him you have changed. I know you have promised him *one thousand times* that you wouldn't exaggerate things but it will be difficult for you. Practice with your family and friends. Think before you talk.
Good luck with your BF. George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com