I feel like a creep
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok, I know I just wrote to you a few days ago but something has happened in that time that has made me feel terrible. I am 18 and work at a pizza place and there is this girl I work with who I was infatuated with for a long time. I am over her now but a within the last few weeks I was talking about how much I liked her to a mutual friend of me and this girl at work and apparantly she found out and went to our boss and told her she didn't feel comfortable working with me anymore. She also may have said something about not feeling safe around me anymore. There was also a rumor floating around that I knew everything about her which got back to her. The thing is me and this girl used to be good friends but now I am scared that that is gone. By her going to our boss and telling her this, word is going to get around that she did this and I am afraid it is going to make me look like a creep and a jackass. What should I do? I thought about apologizing and just telling her that things got out of hand and I really just want to be friends. Another idea would be to just let it go and hope things work out on its own. A last idea which me and my two friends that work came up with is trying to make her look bad. It appears that is what she is trying to do to me so one of my friends, the mutual friend is going to talk to this girl and tell her that she is going to ruin my reputation and what not and he will talk to other people to and try to make her look bad for doing this. I know this sounds mean but I'm not sure what to do. Please help.
You have messed up.
The last time you wrote, I suggested that you stop talking behind her back about her and apologize to her.
If you had done that there is an even chance that things would be ok now.
So now what to do? Forget the wacky idea of trying to get her in trouble... that's just going to get you in more trouble. At this point you can forget apologizing to her as she is too freaked out. If your boss talks to you tell her that you would really like to apologize but you are afraid to. The boss will get the message back and you will apologize through her.
Then forget her. If she says hi you can reply hi but otherwise keep away from her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com