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Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
hi-thanks for all your help.i wrote bout month ago-said me and my girlfriend are great in everyway except socially were different-then wrote week later cuz she broke up with me.you helped both times and told me to contact her-i did contact her-i gave her space for 8days-shes ok with us talking and says she still cares but doesnt know if we get back together-also she said she doesnt want me out of her life-thats where the we were great with everything except socially is-were bestfriends-a shoulder to lean on-understand our everyday problems-very attracted to eachother-etc etc.we split cuz she said she was emotional and at time felt i was holding her back-socially. im not overly jealous-but im fulltime single dad.ill admit i dont like the crowd she hangs with and how they live.im not sayn this out of anger or anything-her friends socialy constantly want to drink-party-out in bars-clubs-never commit to men-sleep around-3 or 4am like 3 or 4 times a week-basically like desparate housewifes meets sex in the city times 2.now that were apart my ex is out alot too with them and around that.i love her and thats not something im comfortable with love of my life being around or socially living her life being involved with that lifestyle-but it seems to split us apart-if i say anything in past or specialy now-she gets mad-or leaves me. how do i approach this?i want us back and she said im so special to her-it seems like shes torn because she wants me-the safe guy who doesnt go out much-never slept around-and at home raising my kid. but wants to be able to run around with her friends who seem like will never settle down and are completely opposite of me or what we had or wanted together.she got with me cuz who i am and lived and said thats who she was at time-said she was a housewife homebody girl. i want her back what do i do and is she just torn and confused-how do i handle tryn to get us back and the social thing that drives me crazy?if we get back together i just want her to settle down with me.
I don't see away around this problem.
She wants to party to 3 or 4 AM and you want her to stay home. Not much wiggle room there. It doesn't seem likely that she would be willing to compromise nor would you.
My advice is to stay friends and hope she quickly outgrows this phase of her life.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com