Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
After a five year relationship in which I thought we were very happy Cheating occured. Finding out about this 4 months after he started seeing her, he begged me not to leave him, swore it was over and to my surprise finding out 5 months after that it was not over. Once again crying and begging me not to leave him. After talking with her I do not completely blame her, she only knew what she was told. To make a long story short, I stayed, agreed to try again with him. Now it has been two months and I feel damaged, torn and shattered. I guess I just havent gotton over this deceit. I look deep within myself to find the trust I once had for him but I can't. I know the love is there between us but can't seem to bring myself to believe in it. I'm just afraid he is using me as his security blanket until he finds what he is truly looking for. I just need some thoughts on how to handle these feelings of dispare I have.
Every thing you say about him could be true.
He has certainly proven, twice, that he can't be trusted. And he still may be up to the same trick now. My advice is to see a professional counselor either with or without him. You need support and advice (more than you can get here.) A counselor will quickly get to the source of the problems and help you resolve them... even if it means you decide to split with him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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