I am falling in love with someone that is already married?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have known this man for 6 months now and we at first hung out as friends with other co-workers, but then one day out of the blue i started to feel something different for him. He would comment on how beautiful i was and how i reminded him of someone he loved along time ago. We always have so much fun together and he has even stepped outside of his marriage twice with me. He works for a trucking company and he will often meet up with me on night out of the week and i will go along with him for a few hours and we will just sit and talk about everything underneath the sun. This man is everything i have ever wanted and i can tell by the way he acts that there is something about me as well. I mean come on now why wold someone who is married step outside of their marriage twice with the same women if they did not feel something in return. I care so much about his man more then i want to even admitt. I have never told him how i feel i just act natural and again i feel bad he has vowed to spend the rest of his life with another women and he does have two children. I know its one thing to break up a married couple but a family is another thing. I can't help how i feel and i know that in some place inside of him he feels something too. what is this is meant to be i am so confused we are getting cloer and then again sometimes and backs off i am just confused right now what should i do? Thank you for any advice you can give to me at this time.
You already know the right thing to do. You don't even have to ask.
Tell him you are very sorry that you won't be able to meet with him again because you could not live with yourself if you split a family apart. And you are correct about that. The pain of the wife and children will be terrible, and family and friends also.
Stop giving in to temptation and let him go back to his family. You will feel better after you do this.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com