I dont know whats wrong i need help
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi im Brett. Im 14 going on 15 and about a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. I was depressed then i got over it but i still kept my distance from her, then we started talking again. In that time i was her "brother" and she was my "sister", but about 4 days later i started to keep my distance until she sent her friend to tell me she still liked me, i asked her if this was true, it was. So we talked then she started teasing me with information. It went like " that would be good but bad at the same time" then she told me she wanted me to come up and give her a kiss. Now keep in mind shes going out with someone. Well i was going to do it but that morning i cut my self shaving near my lip so that wasent a possiblity. Then after school she called me a meany head and told me to meet her so i did and her and i walked her dog. We both knew the tension was building and we were doing little things like i kissed her hands when her dog pulled her down and she put her head on my shoulder. A little bit after I kissed her and it was a great kiss we shared alot more kisses after that. In the next few moments she was stradaling me on a bench and was telling me how beautiful my eyes were then she took my hand looked into my eyes and told me she loved me. To me that was heaven and i told her i loved her to. Anyway the next day she calls me she saying that shes a horrible person for cheating on her boyfriend i told her no she wasent she was only human and humans make mistakes. Well she told me she made a promise not to cheat on anymore boyfriends that told me she had done it before. I told her that scared me she told me she loved me and would never cheat on me. I made her happy that night and i love her we spent 4 hours on that phone that night. Now monday she broke up with her boyfriend but when i called her and asked her what happend now she told me in a cold tone " brett ive been dating awhile now i need time" that i understand and im willing to wait now heres the rest " maybe i need a week, maybe a month maybe two" now i love this girl and im willing to wait but thats a long time, i dont even know if she still loves me and when shes ready if im going to be the guy she goes for. shes also been a little snappy toward everything i think she pmsing or on her period so ill excuse it for now. So what should i do confront her i need advice any would be fine thanks for reading.
You gave yourself the right answer already.
She needs time to herself... hard to say how much. Just make sure she knows you still love her and waiting if she wants to come back.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com