Is this the only way to move on?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am still in love with my ex boyfriend. We were in this relationship that was
quite open and friendly for about a year then decided that we wanted to be
together. Three months later he broke up with me. Because of that we did not
speak for over six months. When he contacted me again he wanted us to get back
together but i was afraid that he'd hurt me again so i told him no. He was also
going to come visit me and i told him no also at the last minute. He travels a
great deal so he went on to Ecuador, then to Egypt, and we kept speaking to each
other. After not seeing each other for over a year, I decided that I did want
to see him, and he did come a couple of weeks ago. He came to visit me and it
was so weird. It was like everything that had happened was gone. And even
though we decided to just be friends, cause he was going to continue to be
traveling, we weren't acting like that. He was being super affectionate, and
on top of that, it felt like we had a true friendship again. He was holding my
hand alot, putting his arm around me, he even cleaned my house when i was out,
and one night when i was asleep (or pretending to be asleep) he kissed me.
twice. He had always been like really affectionate, but it was much more than
before. I was also contemplating whether to tell him i loved him, but i decided
not to cause, at the last moment i freaked out. Its crazy cause I've known him
all this time and never told him. Hes gone and I miss him so freaking much:( it
really sucks. I've heard from him a couple of times since he left, but its like
my feelings for him continue to grow. But instead of stressing, like usual, im
really trying to focus on me cause i have so much to do with moving and school
and work, but it hard even still to distract myself. I don't wanna wait for him
cause we made no promises but even if we cant be together (whatever happens
later), i wanna be friends with him. I guess i just wanna know what you think,
and am i doing the right thing? thanks
All seems to be going well except for his travelling.
You get along well together and share affection... what more could you want?
Perhaps it is time to tell him about your feelings for him. You don't want to let him slip away again.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com