Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi, I have been "friends" with a girl for 12 years, we've always shared an attraction to one another and have been affectionate at several points in time. But because we lived in different countries a stable relationship was not possible. I've moved to her country and have been here for more than a year, but she did not want to be in any relationship (with anyone). I love her very much, and I've started to notice a change in her behavior. For example, she will make a comment about me and say "...thats why I love you" (she's made this remark on several occasions). For Xmas, when she got her present she said, "You really surprised me, you really know me". We've always been very close and when we are together people always think we are a couple. I would never label our relationship as "friends" because we never built our relationship on such a format (whenever we go out, it is always the two of us)...it seemed like we were a couple from the very first moment we met.
Ok, now just recently she came over to watch a movie together. When I asked her what would she say if I kissed her, she tried to pull away and said something about it being late. I felt that she was just trying to avoid confronting the subject, but we ended up kissing/making out and having a great time together. The problem is that when I took her back home, she did not want to kiss again.
So my questions are these:
1) Is it possible that she is still conflicted in her feelings, or maybe afraid to take that full step forward?
2) Given her past behavior, are there any suggestions on how I should proceed?
She probably had doubts about whether it was a wise idea to make out with you.
You should invite her over for another movie and try to kiss her again. She may beat you to the punch by having a chat with you about the subject. On the other hand, she might kiss you first. It's difficult to say.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com