What do i do?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I'm 20 yrs old and i had a girl friend for almost 2 yrs and she moved in with me about 1yr ago on her 18th birthday we as I thought were happy every day she looked in my eyes and told me she loved me and that she could never see her self with any won else every day. But because she moved out on her 18th birthday her parent hated my family and they were vary mad at her and this mad her unhappy from time to time because she care a lot about them. Her family try for a year to get her back and all of her teachers at school kept telling her she mad a big mistake that she should move back in and that she made a big mistake so that was one her mind all the time. Then I had a friend stay for 2 weeks with me some won I trusted a lot and she knew him as well. I could tell some thing was going one because she always asked about him or wonted to sit next to him. Then won night she told me that she was moving back home and that she does not feel the same way about me any more. So she left and we were like going out but not because she like my best friend and she saying she did not know what she wonted. Well won day I seen them together and I lost myself and said some thing that I should not of said know they are going out and she is always mad at me she will not talk to me and she says we will never be together agin that I was her first true love and Iím not her last but yet she says all this but when she sees me she goes from being happy to looking down and almost crying and when I look into her eyes I can still see the love for me in her. After I got her a new car a cell phone a puppy and a ring like she wonted she just up and left me. But what iím asking is if you think like I do that between her parents and her teachers and my ex best friend that they got into her head and changed her way of thinking for me thatís why she just changed like she did and will we every be back together agin. I Know won knows how much she means to me she is my hart my soul and my world I bent over back words for her and I still will I just need help to find a way to try to get her back should I just let her go with him for know because she says she is happy and she has moved on from me and just wait to see what happens or what should I do because iím not giving up on her. So pleas help me out. sorry if this is to long.
No, your question was not too long.
I think you have analyzed the situation very well.
The tough part is how to change things back. Maybe there is no way to do it but I know you are going to try.
Ask her if you can call once a week for 15 mins. just to see how she is doing and say hello. No talk about relationships and be pleasant. This will give her the space she needs and give you the contact you need.
Then after a month or so, ask her if she would like to meet for coffee or whatever. You have a big hill to climb, but this would be a start.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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