Should I keep trying to be with him?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been wih my ex(at the time boyfriend) for about 10 months. We were Great, until i found a number in his phone that wasn't saved. I asked him who it was and he told me it was his cousin ashleys number, apart of me didn't want to believe him, but than he gave me the guilt trip saying "Why don't you trust me, without trust we're nothing." So than i was ok...and i let it go for about 3 months, I later find a text to that number saying "I'm just here thinking about how i haven't seen you in forever." I asked him do you text stuff like that to your cousin, and he was all yea. So that night i found out it was his ex girlfriend which he dated for like 3 months. I confront him and try to give him a chance to tell me the truth, he still insists on lying to me, so then i tell him i know its her, and he said "Wow" and hung up on me. I didn't talk to him that whole rest of the day...i talked to his cousin, which her and I pretty close and he kept calling to tell her it was nothing, and he only lied so i wouldnt get mad. I felt soo betrayed. He than said he was sorry. The next day i see him and we were fine but i didn't treat him like i usually did, he lost his trust and so he didnt actually think i was going to be the same with him. He didnt like it broke up with me. He still calls me and texts me, and even has his cousins and friends asking what im doing and what not. I than found out that 3 days after we broke up he went to a strip joint and got a lap dance. I was so devasted although we weren't together i felt as if he cheated on me, i was even guitly to talk to other guys at this point. I know deep down he wants to be with me and i could get him back, but is it all worth it.
He took me to meet his family, he never ever took anyone home, he told me in the beginning that the girl he takes home is the girl he is serious with. We are a 3 year age difference, but it isn't really a big deal. I just want to know whether or not i should insist on trying to be with him or just give up. He loves me he tells me he loves me, but just doesn't want a g/f, i know i can get him back if i try hard enough to make him want me, but i just need to know if its all worth it. We love each other we make each other happy but...is this what i really need...
Thanks in advance.
You say you love each other and make each other happy. Right there you have more going for you that many, many people in this world.
My advice is to take advantage of those wonderful feelings and try to make it work.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com