I just want to be with her
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Okay, I've been infatuated with this girl I work with for four months or so now. A few weeks ago, she broke up with her boyfriend and I asked her out. She was busy for the time I asked her(I asked her via email). But a couple days later she sent me an email saying she wanted to do something. So that weekend we went out on a couple of dates: Lunch one day and ice skating the next. She seemed to have a really good time. Leading up to the dates we talked on the computer every day for a long time and on the phone. Then all of a sudden, the day after we ice skated, she told me she didn't see our relationship going anywhere past being friends. I was confused, because nothing she had said or done would have led me to think that. In fact, many things she did led me to believe she wanted a relationship with me. Anyway, now she has a new boyfriend, some kid she's been friends with for a long time and I'm just confused. I asked her why she didn't think things would work out between us and she never answered me straight. What can I do to try to win her back? I don't think she knows just how strong my feelings for her are. Should I sit her down and tell her exactly how I feel. I am thinking she is going out with this friend of hers maybe because she already knows him really well and is comfortable around him. Also, my friend suggested to me that because I didn't kiss her on either date, that may be a reason she didn't want to see me again, and he suggested that I should just walk up to her and kiss her and see what happens. What should my next move be? Thanks for any help.
She has a boyfriend so you shouldn't be trying to break them up.
You certainly can tell her about your feelings for her but don't try to kiss her. Continue to be best friends with her and she will keep you in mind if she splits up with her new boyfriend.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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