Going All the Way
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I want to make it (sex) with my girlfriend but I don't know how should I say it to her? Or shouldn't I tell it to her and not to make it with her? I'm 18 and she is 17.
Sex isn't something you just dive into with no warning. And it's not something that you just spring on your girlfriend. "Hey honey, I like kissing you. Let's just skip everything else and Do It." The whole point of every stage of intimacy in a relationship, from that very first glance through to making love, is that you are building your connection to each other. And that comes gradually.
Take everything in stages. If you're already kissing, kiss more passionately. If you're already passionately kissing, start with the back massages and so on. Sex isn't something you just spring into. It is a point on a long, long path you guys take together. And of course it's not the end, because there are many ways, many forms, many styles that you can then have sex in. So it is barely just the starting point of an even greater set of adventures.
But never, never rush into it. When you look back on your teenage years, all of those tender moments when you were just trying a back massage or just trying other things will be truly special in your mind. If you leapfrog all of those really fun things in your quest for "it", you really lose out on a ton of fun.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com