College World vs Real World
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. He is 19 and I'm 22. He goes to college full time and I just graduated college in May and I am working one full time job and one part time job. My full time job is Monday - Thursday and Saturday at nights and the part time is for two days during the daytime. We have been having arguments about my schedule. I see him all day Friday and Sunday and Thursday during the day before I have to go to work. My schedule has been like that since the day we started dating. He says that he doesn't see me as much as he wishes and he hates that. I have been trying to change my schedule as much as I can but it's the best I can do. I take off for the important days like birthdays and anniversaries but he still complains about not spending enough time with me. He says that he's afraid that this is going to hurt the relationship and he worries about our future. He also says that he doesn't know how much more of this he can take. But after saying that he tells me that I have nothing to worry about because he loves me with all of his heart and he has no intentions of breaking up with me. I am his first girlfriend. He is my second boyfriend and unfortunately my first boyfriend said to me that he loved me so much that he saw himself marrying me in the future and then a month later broke up with me. My new boyfriend has said that he can see himself marrying me in the future but he hates my schedule. I am in the television industry to scheduling is rough. What can I do to make things better with my boyfriend? Is this relationship doomed like my last one or do we have a chance? How can I make some quality time with my boyfriend so he won't feel so neglected?
Your question has to do with the quality of the time rather than the quantity.
Make a list of what you enjoy doing together most... dining, partying, romancing, etc. Put about 10 items on the list. Now make sure you do at least five of those items each week. Every so often add something unexpected so you don't get into a rut.
Prepare this list with your b/f and make sure it is ok with the idea.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com