I don't know what to think anymore
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I were together for 2 and a half years and I just don't understand it the night we broke up it was initially the comment I made about his deceased mom and all I said was "You are the way you are because your mother raised you" which wasn't bad and he took it totally wrong anyway. So me thinking I said something wrong said no I meant your grandmother because he just wouldn't listen and I was going out of my mind thinking that I did say something wrong. But then he leaves and so do I then I come back to him taking some of his stuff to his car. And I try to explain to him why I said what I said and all of a sudden it's shady and to make me look good. But anyway we get to talking and he's all nice and tells me he needs his space and wants to be free and doesn't know what we need maybe a break or maybe not but that he will be over to talk to me. So I give him the necklace he gave me back and he's all upset questioning me why I gave it back so I tell him and he still doesn't understand. But so we go in my room and he says friends for now and gives me a big hug then he tucks me into bed and gives me a kiss on the forehead and says he will be over in 2 days. So he never shows up and the next time I talk to him he says I'm psycho and he's mad at me. So I say ok and he can't tell me why I'm psycho and so I tell him I have a note for him and if he wants it he can take it but if he doesn't want it then I won't give it to him. So he takes it thats a good sign I thought. So like 3 days go by and I see him and tell him I want my house key back and he gives it to me and I again try to explain myself cuz he is still mad at me about the comment. And it's over for good. What happened to just friends for now? and we will talk to I don't mind being ur friend and I didn't read the note cuz it got wet I'm so mad at u there is nothing else to say. Why should I believe u. I told him because I love u and he said no u don't and he looked hurt but geeze so many excuses and if he really knew me and loved me he would first off listen to me and believe me and second he would know I love his mother. I just don't understand it because all the times he cried about her I always comforted him and said great beautiful things about her. I remember everything he ever told me about her and if I didn't care I wouldn't remember any of that stuff. Can somebody help me to understand all of this. I need advice please!
I agree with you completely.
There is no good reason for him to make such a big deal about your comment. Maybe he took it as an insult to your mother and then couldn't back away from that interpretation. You tried to explain several times and then he calls you a psycho. Something is troubling him deeply and he probably needs professional counseling.
Unfortunately, I don't have any suggestions on how to make him feel better.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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