How to get him to chase me back?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a boyfriend A, but another guy B is chasing after me. I lied to B that I don't have a boyfriend, but then he found out I have a bf, so he stopped chasing me. he knows i like him, i said i lied cuz i like him, orelse I'd just say I got a bf and reject him right away. Anyways, because my bf treated me with so much care, and I dont know if B can do that, so I decided I will continue with A. However, the time after I decided I will continue with A, I had lots and lots of problems with A, and I feel that If I had chosen B, i would be so much happier and no pressure like with A. So i told B that I broke up with A, hoping B will chase me like before again. But B doesnt do anything and he doesnt even message me on msn now. he used to msg me everytime he saw me online! then I treated him to dinner for his bday, but he still isn.t like before. Now its january, and he was interested in me back in September through december. well in september he started to be interested in me, and in october he kinda figured out I have a bf so he kinda stopped but not completely, until he actually found out for certain that I had a bf, that was in early December, and I told him i broke up in late December. For some reason I cant break up with my bf A right now, but if I get B, i think i'll dump A. My focus is on B right now, but B doesnt seem to take action. so what should i do to get B be like before again? When I ask B about sensitive topics like "does he still like me" he just avoids answering, so I have no idea how he thinks now. But the things he does are all just like normal frds. So is there any way I can get his mood up again ASAP?
Lie #1: you didn't tell B that you had a boyfriend
Lie #2: you didn't tell A that you were chasing B
Lie #3: you told B that you broke up with A when you didn't
You are making your life difficult by not telling the truth to people. This will always backfire on you.
My advice is to try to work things out with A and if you can't then officially break up with him. Then tell B that you are lonely after breaking up with A and you would like to go out with him.
People respond well to the truth.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com