he says he only wants to be friends but calls me nearly everyday
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
me and my boyfriend had been together for 4 months and have recently just finished. everytime we were together we had such a good time its hard to realise that we are over.
we met through work as hes a driver to where i work.
when we got together i told him everything about my past with life and boyfriends. at the time we got together my best friend was an ex-lover but we always stayed good friends and spent alot of time together i was totally honest with my new partner an told him if it bothered him i would stop seeing him. he said that it was fine because i was with him now and that he trusted me but just after christmas i got a call off my boyfriend asking me if i was sleeping with my ex behind his back i hadnt seen him for about two months and boyfriend knows that but he still asked me i love my boyfrind loads but he said that he didnt know what to believe that he needed time to think about what he had been told and get his head around weather he believed me or not. i left him for the rest of the day and i never called him the next day either then the day after i rang him to see if he was ok but he wouldnt ansewer his phone so i left him a voice mail explaining the i had never given him a reason not to trust him and that if i ever thought of sleeping with the ex i would never of told him he was my ex in the first place i was totally honest form the start but he never called me back so i sent him a message he then called me and told me that we were finished because i never gave him time to think because he time to his self and told me not to call or text him again.i left it a week and texted him he said i could call him so we could talk i asked why he finished me and he said it was alot of different reasons but i was to full on i tried to buy his love with gifts and that sometimes i was to clingy he says that he still fancies me and cares but he carnt give me another chance because i wasted the last chance he gave me when we fell out. i understand all my mistakes and told him i can change i have cried alot to him begging him to come back but he just laughs and says that hes never cming back.
but now where not together hes still calls me nearly every day like before and says that i am a great friend i really want him back but when i mention us he puts the phone down on me. i want him back so badly hes arranged for us to meet up as friends but i know that i will always want more i dont understand whats going on does he want me back is he showing signs it feels like he wants me back because he always rings and we have a good laugh but i carnt suss him out what should i do to know for show weather he does really just want to be friends or weather he is just punishing me and plans on coming back soon thanks.
Crying and begging is not the way to go.
If he wants to be friends and have a good laugh then go along with him. See where it leads... who knows what turns life will take and they may be in your direction.
Be sure to invite him over for his favorite home-cooked meal every once in a while. Give him fresh baked cookies as a present. Don't overdo it since that was one of his complaints.
To me he sounds like a nasty squid who should be fed to a whale... but you are the one in love with him so who cares what I think about him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com