We broke up recently. i still love her and want her back
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hello, my predicament is that i am still in love with my recent ex-girlfriend. She just turned 21 here last october, which is when the problems started. She wanted the liberty of going out whenever with her friends. Which i let go. but then it started to be with guys and more and more just for them. When i stepped in it was because she had spent the night with the main guy they were partying with. I said i will not tolerate that behavior and it was done. well low and behold 2 weeks later she wants to take a break because she wants to be able to party without having to worry about someone checking up on her. well i didnt agree but i said ok. She ended up spending the night with the same guy. Now she is to the point of being in a relationship with him. When the whole point of breaking up with me was because she just wanted to party and not be in a serious relationship with anyone at the time.
Some background on us. We had been dating for 4.5 years at the time of the breakup. I know she still has feelings for me but i dont know if i should wait for her to come to me or go after her agian. I guess my question is wether or not i should persue her or just move on and hope things work out for the best. I may only be 20 but i have felt the touch of love with her and i dont know what i should do. i have been in what some people call "denial" since it happend. and i work at the same job as her so it makes it harder. Any information on how to recover from this or how to persue/make her jealous of me is greatly appreciated. Thanks for your time and patience.
Many women develop a desire to spread their wings at age 21.
Your ex sounds typical of this.
Some people believe that if you make an ex jealous they will come back. This may be true, but I don't give advice on that because I believe in honesty rather than trickery.
You can pursue her through open, honest discussion and hope to patch things up that way. Or, you can let things be and hope she comes back. Or, you can give her up and start looking for a new love.
My advice is to let things be and hope she comes back. After all, you have a long history behind you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com