what's going on with him?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 yrs and 4 mnths. about 3 days ago he broke up with me. he called me on december 24th and said he's coming over to talk to me and that it was important. when i asked him if he was breaking up with me he said "i hope not". when he came over he told me that he's been lying to me about seeing his friends. he's been telling me he's in school studying when in reality he was hanging out with his friends, but not all the time. he told me that he's tired of hurting me and that he needs to change before we can be together. i'm so confused as to why he actually broke up with me because i wasn't mad at him, i told him we can work on it. on december 26th he told me he was leaving with his parents to toronto and that it was perfect because he can figure out who he really is. when he and his parents arrived at toronto he sent me a text message telling me he got there alright and that his internet wasn't working so it would be a while before he would get in contact with me (his phone was also dying). he told me that we can call this a break but i'm scared that it might be more serious then that. he had also told me that he's a compulsive liar and thats why he left he didn't want to hurt me anymore, he said when he saw me tear up it broke his heart and thats when he decided that he wasn't right for me. also he sent me an e-mail on december 27th explaining that he's trying to get his internet fixed and that he will definetely get in contact with me for new years. i'm really worried and i don't know what to do. i told him i wasn't mad but he insists on that he is wrong for me and that he wants to change. does it sound like he's lying again? do you think that this actually is just a break? can compulsive liars change on their own? any advice is appreciated. thank you.
Compulsive liars need professional counselling to help them out.
You should not expect him to break out of that habit by himself. It sounds like he is lying about the break up too. It is a convenient coincidence that he is having trouble with his Internet connection and phone at the same time.
Keep him on the back burner if you wish, but you might consider looking elsewhere for a boyfriend.
Good luck and Happy Holidays! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com