What does he want?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
HI I just met this guy on the net through a dating site a month ago around november 16th, we started to talk and even call. A week later, He came to my place. We were awkward at first but I kinda like him and he showed interests on me too. On the three days trip to my place, we ended up having sex on the second day of his staying at my place. After he went back to his place, we kept chatting but no phone calls. When I asked him what he wants out of this, he said that he doesnt wanna be hurry into a relationship because he just got out of a relationship before he met me about 3-4 months ago. So, I thought that he is not interested on me but he wanted me to come to his place for christmas and stay there for 8 days. He was helping me finding tickets and all that. So, I'm here at his place. When we met again after almost a month not seeing each other since he left my place, he still shows me interests and being caring and all that. However, there are things that bug me such as: there are more than 1 toothbrush, he still have some of his x gf's stuff like soap, shampoo, even a painting that she bought. he hanged it up on his living room wall. I dont know if this okay but it bugs me. I dont know where he wants out of all this with me. We had sex again after the first time we met. If he doesnt like me, why would he want me to come to his place for christmas and he once told me that since I just graduated and looking for jobs in the state where he lives in. he said that I could stay in his place and all that. He was the one who is more eager for me to stay at his place and get jobs near him. compare to my self. So, I dont know what he wants and I dont know what I should do.
He is not being clear about what he wants to do.
Have a long talk with him and try to find out what is going on with him. He should at least clean up the bathroom, but the painting is ok to stay.
You didn't mention how you feel about him, so think hard about this so you know what you want.
Good luck and Happy Holidays! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com