please help me , i wonder if she goes through the same thing, i need her back
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
hi me (21) and my ex(20) were friends for about 6 months before we started dating... everything was good, we were very much in love... then school started.. we were both busy, and for the last 2 months we have trouble becuz she can't spend that much time with me and we argue about that a lot. So last month there was one night where she just start crying for no reason, and mumbling about what's wrong with her, but we went through that. Finally the argument came up again, it was the biggest one yet, there was yelling, calling names(i didn't mean it) anyway we broke up that day, didn't talk for 3 days, but after i talk to her she says she was still mad at me, we're imcompatible, never will be, and never will be together again, but she wants to be close friend still despite all the thing she said. it seems like we still need to talk everyday , just no obligation. Now it's christmas time, she has to spend time with her family.
now it's been about 3 weeks and I need help.. i know she has trouble committing cuz school, and i respect that. but it seems that she can't stand not talking to me for one day. should i tell her that i still care? should i ask if we can give it another try? she's the type who doesn't communicate at all, so it's very hard to get something out of her..(she's immature about relationship you can say). or should i wait til christmas is over then ask her again... i love her very much i'm giving her space right now, hoping she would realizes..please help
Ask her out as a friend between Christmas and New Year's.
If things are going really well, tell her how you feel.
Otherwise work at being the best friend possible and hope for things to change.
Good luck and Happy Holidays! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com