This makes no sense at all
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am having such a difficult time understanding why my fiancee has broken up with me. I am 36 and widowed. He is 31, never married. We were engaged for 8 months with our date set and deposit down. We had been together for almost 3 years. He, myself and my daughter (whose father passed away 5 years ago) have grown to be a family. His family loves me and I love them.
He and I get along tremendously. We are attracted to each other. We don't bicker, we respect each other, support each other. We have been a positive influence on each other. He never indicated anything was wrong in our relationship although he will admit he is not a great communicator. The most he can tell me is that he feels like he belongs somewhere else in his life right now. He says he loves me and wishes he didn't feel this way. To me, this is not a real explanation.
I feel used because I loaned him a lot of money. He swears to me he will take care of it. We bought a car together too and now I have to make the payments myself.
I don't want this breakup. What can I do? And if I have to accept it, how can I accept what I don't understand?
You deserve a better answer than the one he gave you.
Talk with him in depth about the subject of why he wants to break up. Talk until you feel like you understand him. Otherwise you will kick yourself for a long time.
Definitely take care of the financial details and don't let him off the hook. Once he thinks about what you have done for him financially he may feel differently.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com