Right to be Jealous?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend has this person he calls "his best friend in the world." She just happens to be his ex-girlfriend from about six years ago (they dated when they were sophomores in college and way before I met him). Well, I'm jealous of her because when she comes back into town (as of this point in time, she's living with her fiancee in another state) he blows me and all his other friends off for her. He claims not to love her in anyway other than as a friend, but we could have plans on a friday night and she'll come visit for the weekend. He says I have no reason to be jealous or hate her (I actually don't hate her because she is really nice) but something about them being together without me makes something inside me went to burst. Do you think I'm just being paranoid or do I actually have a right for my jealousy?
Jealousy is a very difficult emotion to overcome.
You don't have a right to an emotion, it's something you feel -- it is a natural emotional process. If you want to fight it, treat it like an enemy. Tell it to go away and leave you alone. After 100 times doing this the jealousy should start to go away.
Discuss this with your b/f again and again if necessary. He should be willing to help you deal with your situation. It would be an act of compassion which he should be expected to give in a good relationship.
Hopefully between the two of you the problem will be solvable.
Happy Holidays! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com