Really messy Jealousy Question
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello. I am a 21-year-old college student. About a year ago, I started hanging out with this great girl. Really smart, funny, we connect with each other in a lot of ways. A month later before I ask her the dating question, she already is dating someone else.
Naturally, I tell myself that jealousy won't get me anywhere so while I am naturally envious of her boyfriend, I for the most part bottled up my frustration until in private. I was OK for the most part until a friend of this girl found out and told her I like her. Her boyfriend found out as did she.
The problem is she really likes him, yet he is hostile towards me. A previous situation occured between the two when a friend of her's tried hitting on her, thus promping a fight between the boyfriend and aspiring new boyfriend, such that the boyfriend doesn't want the girl speaking with him. She told me he is jealous in such a manner, then proceeded to ask what I would do if he were to say we couldn't hang out.
What do I do? Do I just attempt to be a friend? Do I attempt to confront the boyfriend on his jealousy? How do I manage my own jealousy?
It's easy to say but harder to do...
Drop any thought of her for the time being. If you discover, in the future, that she is without a b/f then you can step back into the situation.
She knows you like her so there is no problem with that.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com