What to do or not do
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
We had been great friends for 2 years. we were also lovers. we insisted on keeping our friendship more important than the extreme physical attraction, believing that bing friends was more important. We both have bad tempers and i am much more emotional and he is much more controlled, could be because he is 45 and i am 35. He has the ability to hold malice and had told me about family and friends he had stopped talking to for pretty good reasons as far as i was concerned. He had always told me to be careful about the things i said when i was upset and in my childishness, didnt pay any attention to that believing that we would always be friends. 3 months ago he had some financisl issues to deal with and asked for ome space to deal with these issues, he felt i need attention he couldnt give at that time. In my fear of loosing my friend etc i kept on trying to get intouch via phonecalls etc.we communicated a few imes and he seemed so distant, again i flared up and said alot of nasty things of which he replied with some even nastier things...i was shocked. I have asked for forgiveness, civility, said i have forgotten everything he said and believe he was not himself etc but now he does not even respond to my text messages or anything...just blank. No matter what i write.. nothing.I see him every day at the gym.. we used to go together and it kills me that he wont even wave or say just a Hi!He just ignores me,(i have caught him looking at me from the corner of his eyes) but talks to everyone else.I cant believe it. I am not against moving on but should I?
Might as well move on.
Maybe it will get his attention... or maybe not.
He seems set in his decision and trying to approach him again will just push him back into his cave even more.
You will find someone just as good or better.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com