am i right in leaving him?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Ive lived with my boyfrend for 1.5 years. We moved in together almost immediately because we were so in love. I still love him to death but i recently moved out because of his jealousy. At first it started out in joke form little comments here and ther but then once we got really close it escalated to such extremes that i was not allowed to hang out with my friends if there were going to be other guys around or even close. I tried at first to deal with it because i figured he was still having issues because his previous gf cheated lots. BUt then i wasnt allowed to go to the dentist, do my hair nice wear bright colors look at anybody when we were in public and faced interrogation everyday about who ive seen who i talked to ect.I felt trapped so i left and he begs me everytday to come back he claims ive made him depressed ruined his life and left him with nothin. I beleive that with time i will be okay but am scared because he makes me feel like i ruined everything for him . i dont know if i can handle feeling this bad anymore and aam scared i will give in.. please help me and give me a tip of what i should do... i love him soo much and it hurts so bad to see him in pain.
You are making the right decision.
He made his bed and now he's sleeping in it. His jealous, controlling behavior was way past anything at all reasonable. I'm sure you don't want to live the rest of your life with him acting like that. So you had to leave him at some point... and you reached that point.
Don't let him lay a guilt trip on you because he is the one who has caused the problem. He needs professional counseling but don't let him try to make you promise anything if he goes. He is not going to change without a lot of treatment and maybe even then he will still be jealous.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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