I don't know how she feels about me...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I've known her for a a couple of years now, and I sort of dissappeared on her, when she showed the most signs of interest. I don't know why but I knew I liked her too. But I got embarrased about doing bad in a class that we had and so I dissappeared until I caught up to her. I know its stupid, but thats what I did. I finally caught up and saw her again, we hit it off again and she was happy to see me. my feelings came back and I really like her. so a couple of weeks of seeing her in class, I asked her to go to the movies with, then things flew by after that and now a couple of months have passed by. we talk and see each other alot, I made her dinner a few times, she made me dinner, we talk and laugh together.
So I figured its a good time to tell her how I feel, I had 3 chances. After I took her out to dinner and a movie, I was about to tell her, but I hesitated and just gave her a goodbye hug.
second time, I was copying notes from her at her place and I gave her an early christmas gift that she really loved. we ended up assembling it together and I taught her alot about a hobby I like. so before the day ended I told her I have to tell you something, so when I was about to leave. she locked the door and walked me out, and instead of telling her, we ended up talking about other things for a while. Right before I left she said, don't tell me, I'll let you think about it some more.
So after alot of thinking, I couldn't hold it in any longer and tried to tell her again, and I called her and waited outside her place and when she came out, she said " before you say anything, let me talk. I don't want you to tell me because if you do things will get weird. and I don't want to ruin what we have between us." I kept prying but I didn't get any good answer from her other than "I'll tell you when you can tell me"
so I don't know where I stand anymore, she knows I like her, but I don't know how she feels about me.
Try this: tell her you are "developing feelings" for her.
That won't be much of a surprise to her but it won't cause your relationship to change for the worse.
When you say that she should be ready to answer, but if she isn't then give her a chance to think about it but ask again the very next day. Don't let her put you off or you will be left dangling.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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