even more confused
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Sorry to write in here so often, but my ex continues to do things that seem to keep complicating things more and more. The morning I found out that he thought his new girlfriend was amazing and that they were in the start of something so awesome he couldn't even fathom, was the same day that we had a concert to go to. That night we were all over eachother all night. Before we went into the concert we had an hour and a half until we could be let in, so we sat alone in his car in the parking lot at night with nobody around. We started talking about old time stuff and then he was telling me that he was going to be honest and he really wanted to kiss me but he knew he couldn't. All night he kept going on about how it just felt so natural for him to just reach over for me but now there was this wall in between us (his new girlfriend). And all night we were all over eachother, we would sit in the concert with our arms around eachother and our foreheads together, and our lips nearly touching. He kept making sexual remarks about how sexy I was and "damn you for being so attractive" because it made him want to "do things".
I was actually the one who stopped anything from happening, because I don't want to be the other woman, but he kept complaining that he wanted to kiss me. And all I could say was "You know how I feel, you're the one with someone else so I don't know what you want me to say"
But the next day he just went back to his girlfriend like nothing happened. I asked him about it finally yesterday (a week later, we haven't seen eachother since the concert) and I told him he can't have both of us and he said he doesn't want both of us. He says he cares for me but not in a romantic way. And he told her about how he was thinking things when he was with me but it would never happen again.
He still acts with her like that whole "honeymoon phase" now, but how could he be like that with me at the same time?
I'm really really confused, I don't understand what he's feeling at all. Was this a good or a bad sign?
Sorry for the length of this! Thank you!
Concert night he wanted sex with you and his g/f was not in his mind.
Now that has passed he is thinking of his g/f and not of you.
Not good behavior on his part.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com