Please help me or is it too late?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I'm Jake, a guy age 16. There's this girl at school that I'm friends with but I want to go from freinds to dating.
I'm going fill you in on the details. This girl (which from this point forward I'll call Sarah) is great. She's sexy and she has a great personality. She gets on well with everyone.
Me, I'm a funny enough guy, smart and sure I'm not Brad Pitt, but I'm good enough looking. I get on well with most people too.
Anyway Sarah and I get on really well. I've known her for about 2 years. Last year I considered her as a friend but this year the friendship has developed into an attraction.
I'm going to talk you through the last few weeks, and this week in greater detail.
So in the last 2 or 3 weeks our relationship has got better and better and it is going from a friend to flirty stage. this week was going brilliant. On thursday night I got tips off the internet
and planned to use them on Friday. Thursday night I even had a dream of Friday where everthing went perfect and she became my girlfriend.
BUT, things didn't go as expected. friday started off as normal and throughout the day things got better and better. then came french the last class of the day. It went really good too until 5 minutes before the bell.
Every one was standing up waiting for the bell to ring. By this point everything was going to plan. I was going to leave on a high note and see would think of me during the weekend (A tip on the net said to leave when
your going great and she'll thing think of you until the next time you meet). Now here's what happened:
The bell went. I was messing with her and gave her a little push (as a joke), at this point it was only the two of us and the teacher in the room.
Sarah: Do you see this sir. Bullying me. - (she's joking)
Teacher: That's not bullying. It's courtly. (I dunno what word he used here.)
Jake, just get her number and call her at the weekend.
Me (Jake): __________________ - (I'd didn't know what to say so I said nothing and Sarah and I continued out the door to my friend John who was waiting in the corridor.)
John: What did he say?
Sarah. (she told him)
John: I told you. I've said it before. You two would make a great couple.
Me: (thinking: oh no he said it again. What do I say?)
( once again I said nothing.)
sarah: (after a pause) nah
This was bad, bad bad bad. I was two minutes from saying goodbye and leaving on a high when he said this, and it wasn't the first time. he said it about three times in the
previous months when we were at the friends stage. That was it nothing else was said and I went home. that evening I couldn't stop thinking about her. I then thought
about how badly I handled the situation. But I thought about her pause when John said it. Maybe when my heart was sinking she could have looked over at me to see my reaction
and then when I didn't say anything she took it as a no and said "nah". Later that evening A weird feeling developed in my stomach. I couldn't get rid of it. I couldn't stop thinking about her
and I can't stop. That's why I writing this. Please help me. Tell me what to say if my friend says this again and what to do in the meantime. I really want to be with this girl.
Please tell me what to do.
On Monday, act as if nothing had happened.
Treat her as you always do and even more friendly. Get her phone number and give her a call.
Meanwhile if your friend makes that comment again just say "Oh, she's too cute to be interested in me." or say "I would be delighted if she would."
Most joking comments can be handled by saying "yes" and smiling broadly. This will save you in many uncomfortable situations.
Good luck! George
p.s. don't worry about the girl, she was just saying something to say something. She didn't necessarily mean no.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com