He Hit me, what do I do?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been with my bf for over a year now, he has a mental Illness, that he doesnt try to take care of, He gets on meds, then stops them, He Hit me the other night, busted my Nose and split my Lip, I LOVE HIM and I know he has a Mental Illness, but He uses that as an excuse for all the Verbal abuse,(that hurts as worse as the busted nose did) but now he's hit me, swears he wont do it again, but can I really rely on that? It hurts, I love him so much, But Ive heard so Many people say, HE wont do it again,.. I Never thought he would Do it the first time, he suffers from bi polar manic depression, with parainoid dellusins, with a touch of pscycophrania... and Says he doesnt need his meds , What Do I Do? If he loved me he'd do anything possible to be better? am I turning my back on him? Ive tried for almost 2yrs... still the same HELP! thanks alot
You should tell him to stay on his meds or you're out the door.
But you won't do that because you love him so much. What you can do is to use his violent behavior as a lever to make him take his meds. Ask him if he is willing to do that for you-- to prevent a reoccurence of his physical abuse. Remind him that he is verbally abusive too.
Next time he says he doesn't need his med just point to your nose.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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