how do i get him back after what i have done
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
this summer i started dating an amazing guy who no one in my family like really. we are seven months differnt in age, me being the oldest. however we both fell in love quickly. i love him with all my heart. but we broke up constently. the last time we broke up i started hanging out with an old friend whom i hadnt seen in like 3 years. he and i were always together. we needed up having sex twice before the love of my life started talking to me again. after "my" guy and i got back together i still talked and hung out with the old friend we just didnt have sex. but my guy asked me if the other guy and i had had sex i lied and said no. for three weeks i lied. until there was a chance i could have been pregnant. thats when the truth came out. well i didnt tell him i still talked and saw the old friend. one of my best friends who was like a sister to me went behind my back and told my guy all of that. resulting in him hating me and saying he cant even look at me anymore. but the thing is, I LOVE HIM. i have loved him for soemtime now almost a year and i dont want to live without him. what do i do?
First you should realize that you may never get him back. Accepting this is important for your mental well being and for his perception of you.
The problem with cheating and lying is, as you know, that you aren't going to be trusted easily anymore.
Now the question is how do you clean up this mess? Start by telling your ex that you realize you made mistakes and that you want a chance to be forgiven just as you would give him a chance if the tables were turned. Tell him you would understand his feelings and continue to love him.
Tell him you still love him and want another chance. Maybe he will agree.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com