Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have written to you guys before and I have to say thanks...
Well I am newly single and meet this WONDERFUL guy... he is sweet, sexy, smart, determined all around great!
Here is the catch I am white he is black. I have never been with a black man however he has been with white women in fact he has a daughter with a white women. I was against interracial dating before I meet this guy and now my whole aspect has changed. However my family will not approve I mean my mom and dad will but my mom-mom and pop pop will not. Along with most of my aunts and uncles. Cousins ETC!
I am not serious with this guy yet it is very new and I am not sure what level we are going to go to. Is this something I should be worried about so early on? I just feel like I could really fall for this guy but I have a feeling that if my family rejects him it will make everything so bad. I am not sure where to go from here any advice would help.
Oh and the fact that he has a daughter. Is that something that I should be worried about?
Thanks in advance.
My advice is to treat this situation the same as you would for any other guy.
If you become closer and it's time to meet the family, first discuss it with your parents and get them on your side. The rest of the family will hopefully fall in line if all goes well with your parents. Ask them for their help.
A cook-out is a great place for your family to meet him but if you don't live in the south or southwest it's probably too late for that. But this is overplanning since you aren't sure how things will turn out with him.
His daughter will be a typical complication of modern day relationships. If you are not ready for her to live with you (overplanning again) then make that clear to him if the time comes.
I wish you the best of luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com