Is it something im doing or what?!?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now. up untill a few weeks ago, I had no doubts about her love and honesty towards me. We were intamant (spelled wrong i know)every night sometimes more when we were together untill this month. Like a dummy i asked "who did you call when you were aroused befor you met me?" she told me who he was and i found out he is only a few miles away. I drive aprox. 90 mins to see this girl every chance i get. So it would be easy for her to do this. not only that but she has had conversations with her ex of 2 years. she still lets him get to her as far as makeing her angry. I know how hard it is to get over someone seeing as i am divorced but its the things she says to him that bother me...IE (its just hard to get over someone you loved) or she sometimes gets angry if i say somthing negative about him. Now since all of this has started her sex drive has dropped drasticly, her attitude towards me has changed from oh i love you and need you to I dont care if you come or not or "im tierd of "fucking" every time we see each other" when i ask if she is ok she gets quiet or promply tells me NO or Nothing or NVM (nevermind) Is it just me or is she A: losing interest B: cheating C:just wanting a break. She has had a very bad UTI and that would explain alot of things but some how i feel that somthing else is going on. So i guess my question is Am i just paranoid or is this something i should worry about? Keep in mind, I am somewhat needy and thrive on reasurance and affection. I offten tell her i love her and did not know what i did without her (and thats the truth) I am ready to do anything that i need to make this work with her. she really meens alot to me and it would kill me to have to break up with her. Thank you in advance
I agree that the UTI has a lot to do with the problems you have been having.
Wait until that is cured before you worry too much about her and her ex. You have no evidence at all that something is going on.
Since she means so much to you, you need to trust her.
Read the following for help: http://www.coping.org/growth/trust.htm
Good luck! George
-- from George
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