Relationship Problems...Not equal
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
In July me and this boy started talking. At first i didnt really want to talk to him like that b/c for one he might do me like others have done me in the past (so hard for me to trust people) and he wasnt really my type. But as the summer went on we grew closer and always spent time together and i started to develop strong feelings for him. Well he left to go to college and we've been in a relationship for almost 5 months. Well i dont fell like things are equal between us and i fell like i care about him way more b/c i show it and he doesnt. I always call and let him know when im just thinkin about him or when i miss him. He always too busy for me but he makes time for everyone of his new college friends. If he needs anything ill take it to him and his college is about 2 hours from where i stay. If he wants me to go visit i will. He txts me ocassionally when he really starts to miss me (well really i think he misses the sex cuz thats what he wants when he wants me to come visit if i havent seen him in a while). Basically I really care about him...possibly love him but i dont want our relationship to revolve around sex and i dont wanna feel like im the only one that really cares. What should i do about my situation?
What you should do is to communicate with him honestly and gently.
Tell him what you told me and let him get the message. Do it without a lot of emotion because that is where you are unequal... in depth of emotions for each other.
Don't be too eager to fetch things for him because it makes him feel like he rules over you which he shouldn't. An equal relationship is the best one.
Give him some space because he is in a new environment and his mind is buzzing with all the new things he is encountering. But don't let him walk over you either.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com