I'm confused. I don't want to but should I break up with him or not?Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
We've known each other since 2003. We used to work together but started to become friends in 2004. He helped me through a bad relationship. We then became really close friends. I stated that I wasn't looking for a relationship then. As the days go by, we became closer. We used to laugh and have fun. There was this girl he met and I would tell him he liked her and he would tell me no. He eventually stopped talking to her.Whenever people as me about my relationship with him, I would tell them that we were just friends and they would laugh at me. They saw that we were more than that and then I realized it too. Around tthe beginnign of this year, he started talking about another girl. This girl is his second best friend. He feels happy talking to her. To me that's when all our problems started. I became jealous of their relationship and started feeling insecure. He has alot of female friends and flirts alot in front of me. When we go out they would always call him and he would answer his phone. He would tell them that he was chilling with a friend when he was with me. He doesn't tell people that we're together. For his second best friend birthday, he bought her jewelry, took her out for lunch and had balloons, flowers and a teddy bear there for her. He never did that for me. In the last couple of months we have been arguing alot. He thinks I nag him and question him to much and I think he disrespects me. The beginning of this month, he moved out. He said once he moved, he would be happy and he could make me happy. Since he moved, me hardly speaks to me and we hardly see each other. Three days after he moved, he told me he wants to be special friends.I don't understand that because before he moved, we both promise each other that we were going to try to make the relationship work. He wants to be able to do his own thing without answering to anyone. So far, he had two of his female freinds over.Most of his friends are female and works with him. One of them stayed by him until 4am. They cuddle, watched tv and played video games. He told me that she felt a bit weird because it was like she wanted to make a move but she didn't. My family tells me that I should let him go but I can't. He's the only person I have right now. I don't have any friends. I want the good times back. was willing to try the special friends thing but I'm not willing to do it if it means him messing around with other chicks and sleeping with them. Please advice me on what to do.
I agree with your family.
It seems he has moved on and you should too.
You've had your shot a being together and it didn't work out.
Sorry. Good luck! George
-- from George
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