Need My One Love Back in my Life
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I was together with my boyfriend for nine years, and it was a tumultuous, but extremely loving time. We argued a great deal, but also loved each other a great deal more than one would think possible.
We broke up a year ago, and I was okay with things for the first six months, thinking that the time apart would do us well and hopefully change the problems we had. But now I simply cannot function as I think of him constantly, and want nothing more than to be back together with him.
He, however, has moved on and is now in love with another. It took him a long time to do this, that is why I don't believe it is in any way a rebound. Since meeting her, he seems to have forgotten me completely - and of course, our almost one decade together.
I just don't know if I should hold out hope that we will ever be together again. I want to, and I need to (for my sanity), but wonder if he even remembers all of the years we spent together, as he seems so happy and smitten with his new love.
Any advice on how to go about approaching my life without him, and how to aim to reunite in the future would be most appreciated.
Your situation is deeper than can be handled through the internet.
You should seek professional counselling right away. You said "I cannot function" and that is a very strong statement.
In the meantime, ask him if you can call for 15 mins every two weeks. Use this time cheerfully to find out how he's doing and catch him up on what's happening with you. Who knows what might develop.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com