I want more...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi, Since there is a long story behind all this, I'm trying to tell only the essential.
There is this girl that I've know for about a year, and that I liked, and still like. At some point she realized that I like her and she started getting completly away from me, I talked to her, and we agreed to remain friends.
Right now, I'm her best male friend, she tells me things that she only tells her closest female friends about, but I want more. Recently she was dating a guy that she knew maybe for 3 years, I'm not sure about it... she liked him and he broke her heart. I care about her, and I supported her about it, I want her to be happy.
Even though I'm her best male friend at the moment, I want more, for example, I'm afraid of being too affectionate with her because she might get away from me again so that she won't be giving me any hopes... I'm not the kind of person who does something without being sure of it, for example, I don't ask her if I can hug her, I'm not sure if I can, so I don't do it, I don't ask her if I can kiss her in the cheek, I don't do it... as I'm not sure if I can and I think it's a bit "bad" if I ask her, I don't do somethings that I would like to do?
I don't want her to think that I like her so that she doesn't get away from me again.
What can I do about this?
The answer is easy. Talk with her.
Tell her that you want to hug her hello and goodbye but that you are afraid to ask because she might reject you and not be your friend.
Since she is such a good friend, I'm sure she will be happy to have hugs with you.
Start like that and see where it leads.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com