he is back but its not like it was
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
hi..my ex and i got back together after breaking up for about a week...we missed each other... after being together over two years...now he wants to be friends...we see each other twice a week but he doesnt seem that into me as before...sometimes it seems like we are moving forward and then this job stress gets him all tired ..so then i seem like a extra thing he has to work in his life ..he is on call alot works about 60 hours and has 7 year old son he sees tue ..thurs...every other weekend..he trys to do it all....so iam his last prority...i know iam stupid to stay with him...but i love him and his son..i try not to excpect much i really think he has to much going plus he has 5 apartments he rents out ..that is always needing repair ect...i think i should just leave him alone to his full life but i cant let go...he is 35 years old iam 54 ..but i look like iam 40..lol..sorry iam just being silly but hey thats why he is dating me..what can i do i tryed everything he is not not going to be making me part of his life anytime soon..i know just move on and find someone else...but i want to bad to have him again like we were before...i talked to him about it but he just changes the subject..
Overall you have a mountain to climb.
As you said he has a full plate already and you are the dessert he doesn't have room for. You say you have tried everything but you still have problems.
You've probably done this but I will suggest it anyway. Try to do as much of his cooking for him as you can. This will relieve his burden and make you more attractive to him. Clean his house, wash his clothes, you get the idea. In other words be a wife to him.
Only do as much as you feel comfortable doing. And if you are offended by or don't have time to do this added work then ignore the suggestion. But if he gets the idea that you are someone who can help him with his load then he may look at you in a different way.
Sounds like a rough road to travel and I wish you well! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com