Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, I wrote in here before about my situation and how my ex and I were best friends and now he has a new girlfriend (and I'm still in love with him). Your advice was to keep being his best friend and hope for the best. Well he promised when he got his girlfriend that this wouldn't change anything between us and he's still here for me 100%. But now all of a sudden he never calls (he used to call me every day), he only calls me back if I call him first. I am the one who says we should hang out, and if I send him any emails I'm lucky if he replies... when just a few weeks ago I was the one he was constantly writing to and calling.
I'm really confused about his actions. We are supposed to hang out a couple days from now, and it'll be the first time I've seen him in probably a month. I wrote him an email about how I was excited to see him, and I feel like we never talk and I've lost my best friend. I elaborated more, a couple paragraphs actually, asking him if things would stay this way or if we would start talking more. And when he wrote back all he said was "sounds good about Wednesday" nothing about anything else I wrote.
I'm really confused.. I don't want to be the one constantly making all the effort. When he told me about his new girlfriend, he held me while I cried for so long and promised things would be okay and I'm still his best friend. He was really heart-felt about it and caring. But now it's like he doesn't care at all. I dont understand it at all, what's going on?
He is feeling guilty.
So he avoids you so he won't have the guilt right before his eyes. But this will probably pass and your friendship return. It's doubtful if you will ever be as close again unless you get back together.
Keep your eyes open for other guys too. It will make him see you in a different way and probably a better way.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com